Comparing Negative and Positive Self Esteem

Negative Self Esteem

  • Blaming others for problems

  • Looking suspiciously at compliments

  • Holding on to guilt from the past

  • Nagging, judging, and controlling

  • Letting oneself go physically

  • Making decisions based on external feedback

  • Avoiding risks, sticking with the unknown

  • Ridiculing others when they appear foolish

  • Seeing mistakes as failures, expecting perfection in others

  • Not dealing well with criticism, becoming angry and defensive

    Positive Self Esteem

  • Taking responsibility for one's own feelings and actions

  • Giving and taking compliments graciously

  • Focused on the present and future while learning from the past

  • Listening openly to others

  • Taking good care of body and appearance

  • Making decisions from internal values

  • Taking risks and challenging oneself

  • Laughing at oneself, but never putting another person down

  • Accepting mistakes as a part of life, open to feedback

  • Listening to criticism without anger, and not necessarily agreeing with the criticism

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